Have tried making up social stories ? There are social stories from "Social Sam " you can print the childs
name in the story , read them out to him before bed, before school of what you as parents and the teacher expect
of him about his behaviour . You can also google on line ,read about the social stories write up ( Speech,OT use
them when needed) they can also be used for Children with issues about certain behaviour.
You can also write up your own. Easy !! write a story about a boy who is five years old ,going to School and so on. Then ask
the questions about the boy and what how should and should behave. Sometimes parents have trouble getting through
to the Child and ...detention is not the answer! Makes it worse !.
Go back to the start and start with the social stories ,
Reward good behaviour (something he likes to do example games ,park)
if the behaviour issues not the best explain to him that he needs to work towards a better day tomorrow
NO REWARDS .
Have a Diary and take notes of input from the teacher regarding his off days (you might see a pattern forming
and keep an eye on going on during school drop off and pick up .
If he has had a bad day at school , sit down and have a chat together of how his day has been , do not
bring up what the teacher has spoken to you about. See what he tells .
If the behaviour does not settle down then you will have to be really strict and set down some rules (written )
on a huge cardboard have it in eye view some where in the house so he can see it without you saying
all the time about it,(does work) i have tried many times with my Son.
Have you any other Children or is your Son the only Child? If he is these Children take time to calm down
they want all the attention to themselves and when they start School they find it harder to mix in with others
and use their social skills ,Children who have few brothers or sisters cope better with School social so on.
Do be angry and upset with the Child ,just be firm and strict guidelines you would like the Child be beware of.
I had to do that with my Son (now he is aware and working towards the better). It take time and every child
is different. You will go back to work soon once you start over again and work through it. If needed seek
advice from a expert in Child Psych who will give you the tools to handle his behaviour . Do that now and
you will be able to cope when he gets in his teens later on. Look outside the School system and then
make a plan of action ....Good luck and its not as bad as you think it is .... be more firm with the Child
setting strict guidelines will help. All the best.
Kind Regards (Mother of One ) skatergirl08
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