Can you please tell me what exactly is the diagnosis of your son in terms of ASD? I mean, what did it say in the letter with the diagnosis in it???
I am just confused really.
If the Paediatrician said in the letter that your son has features of ASD, that to me means, HE HAS ASD (Autistic Spectrum Disorder).
In other words, he is Autistic!A spectrum is a condition that is not limited to a specific set of values but can vary, without steps, across a continuum.
By the above definition of a Spectrum, it tells you that AUTISM has different types. You are lucky that your son is in the Mild to Moderate level. He can be trained to behave like a normal child. That is what parents can do with ASD kids. The MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TRAINING!
You are lucky also that he has been diagnosed early compared to others who are still waiting at the age of 5 or 6 yrs or more.
I was in the same situation as you. My first born was diagnosed at 2 yrs old something. It was a long time ago now. He was also in the mild to moderate level. His main problem was his social behaviour and he is slow academically. My son is now 15 yrs old and he is going in a mainstream high school. He behaves almost like a normal kid. You will not think of him as ASD if you just look at him.
BTW, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT THAT YOUR SON HAS ASD!
Please do not blame yourself for your son's disability. The latest research about Autism is, it has something to do with a particular gene.
The best thing that you can do now is train him according to what you believe is right and wrong. You have the advantage because he is still very young and that means he is easily trained! Think of those parents who have ASD kids and been diagnosed very late. They have a very hard job of training their kids because they already have their own way of doing things!
Please bear in mind that, "THERE IS NO CURE FOR AUTISM"!
Kids with ASD becomes better at everything as time goes by. That means, they get better at behaving towards people around them like the family members and friends and even strangers. This also includes the school.
Kids with ASD love ROUTINES! They like to know what happens every time they do and say something.
So, train them what to do in everything, from the time they wake up to the time they go to bed! It is very important to have routines for your peace of mind. As time goes by, they become much better at coping with changes in their routines.
Also, enroll him in SEDU (Special Education Unit). Ask your Paediatrician which primary schools have a SEDU in your area. It is very important for your son to start early in training how to behave in schools. Even just by learning how to sit in his chair for a long time, is a good start. We all have to sit for a long time when we go to school. Kids with ASD can't do this, as far as I know. Also, learning how to follow instructions by a teacher and how to socialise are a few things that kids with ASD have to learn. SEDU places can do these things for your child for free! And it also makes your life easier if they go to SEDU. The teachers in these places are specially trained to deal with kids with any disability!
So, by sending your son to SEDU, you are helping him and you are also helping yourself!
We took our son to a SEDU for 4 yrs and it really helped him. Now he is just like a normal person. He will never be normal BUT at least he can do things like most normal people do.
What exactly are your son's behaviour? How does he behave towards people? How does he behave towards other kids? How does he play with his toys? And can he speak yet? Does he make funny noises?