Hello Mel, I'm a grandmother from NSW and hope this reply in early Feb may still be of some assistance to your December question. Trying to be as concise as possible - I feel for you and your little girl and this bullying issue. Couple of suggestions - firstly if your daughter has one close friend or cousin or family friend, try to assist her to build on that relationship by having a sleepover, or invite them on a special day out, eg to give her a fall back position which will help her to identify heraelf with people her age who like and enjoy her. Secondly, set up new habits or begin to more closely monitor any IT eg Facebook or mobile phones. Thirdly have a talk to a favourite teacher or school counsellor and alert to the problem and ask for feedback on this issue. Next, if you have extended family nearby make a regular visits for some happy family time or travel on holiday to reconnect, to help with your daughter's identity within the extension of a loving family. Next see it you can help her to find a new team sport which is great for creating new friends and feeling strong about your identity. And lastly, as she seems willing to discuss with you, which is just great, make a habit of discussing regularly, finding ways to find the best thing about each day, and strategies for dealing with and realities about the people who are not nice. Also extrapolate her strengths and ambitions so that she pictures herself into the future with her goals and evolving identity intact.
Best wishes and well done so far.. It's certainly a constant job being a conscientious parent.