As a pro-active Mum I know my boys (12 & 15 year olds) have had the talk about the birds and the bees, but I was hoping to postpone the pornography talk until they had at least had their first girlfriend! But no, on the way home from school it was my 12 year old who recounted his friends discussing graphic footage that they had seen!
I was caught unprepared for this chat, but knowing the opportunity had to be seized I asked what they knew, and set the tone for an honest, consequence free discussion.
They are curious about what all the fuss is about, and I am certain that I don't want them viewing pornographic material to find out! This leaves me in a position that I need to find valid and logical arguments to dissuade them from watching porn if the opportunity arises.
My arguments went along the following lines:
1. Porn shows an unrealistic view of sex and you don't want to warp your own expectations before you've had any personal experience of real intimacy.
2. Porn can make you feel inadequate because you are measuring (no pun intended) yourself against a fantasy.
3. Lots of porn is unregulated and shows people in harmful, compromising or unpleasant situations
4. Porn sites can often leave your computer insecure and you may get a virus.
I deliberately steered away from any religious arguments as our family values are not founded on any single religious belief.
What do other parents of teens think?
Have you encountered a similar question or situation?
Would you have tackled things differently?
I would be fascinated to hear from parents with teen daughters, does this issue come up for you or is it a boy thing?